I’ve been reading some Eberhard Arnold and found some food for thought and implementation, in his wisdom on forgiveness.
The Holy Spirit convinces the world about judgment. And that brings decision. Judgment consists in the fact that the Prince of this world is judged, not people. John 16: 8-11. Church discipline never fights against the individual concerned; it fights exclusively against the Prince of this human world, who is out to enslave souls, including those who belong to the church. 2 Timothy 2:24-26.
Most people are, however, truly enslaved. They are convinced that deeds done through their body by the Prince of this world are their own and that the judgments of these deeds are a personal attack on their identity. This is simply a matter of misconstrued identity. The judgment of these deeds that we experience in this life is toward the positive end for the soul to be purged of the evil identities that cling like parasitic spirits. Therefore, when a judgment comes our way as a result of evil deeds done by our own hand, we must resist the urge to defend ourselves, so that our souls can be purged of the identities we have assumed from him who is not our creator.